r/AmITheA**hole For Refusing To Give My Half-Brother My Inheritance?

r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP discovers that his grandfather may have cheated on his grandmother, resulting in a half-brother. After the grandfather dies and leaves OP a considerable estate, the half-brother shows up and asks for a DNA test because he wants to know who his father really is. OP refuses because he doesn't want to share his inheritance with this total stranger. Does that make him the butthole?

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  • The first story was pretty controversial. Do you think I got it right?

    rSlashrSlashСарын өмнө
    • No

      Veteran of BaalVeteran of Baal18 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Robert Bennett if someone wants closure that badly, then they shouldn't care about the family home, if they are that unwilling then they dont want closure that badly then, they want money and closure, big difference from just closure

      jony thelegend74jony thelegend74Сарын өмнө
    • @Cbreak So you would just give half the estate and become financially unstable? Sure, shut your trap unless you would do the things you say

      Aaron BurrAaron BurrСарын өмнө
    • He is not in the wrong and here is why; Its really odd that the other guy showed up AFTER the grandfathers death, but that could be awful timing. But if he really wanted to know if that was really he dad, he would be more than willing to do it without inheritance to sweeten the deal. Considering how they got mad at OP for asking to not split the inheritance, I think we all know why he is there

      Nicole The AuthorNicole The AuthorСарын өмнө
    • I think you're actually too nice to OP. OP is a shitty human being, and I'm astounded by the people here excusing his shittiness. This is clearly the ageism of reddit -- had John been the "young one", FOR SURE OP would have been deemed "TA", holding vital information hostage for money. John probably should have said he has anxiety and a support animal -- that always gets people on your side in these things.

      Jimbob JonesJimbob JonesСарын өмнө
  • I don't live in the US, the concept of HOA is wild to me, they just sound like a bunch of busybody thay occupy themselves by policing their neighbors. It's my property, you don't like it, well you're in luck, it AIN'T yours, you don't have to pay it any mind. It's ugly, you don't have to look at it because it's NOT yours, close your damn curtains if it's that "bad". If what I do is neglectful or if there is a risk associated with my property, the city has laws regarding that, otherwise it's nobody's business. Any story involving HOA should have a minimum of 2/5 bottholes for the HOA people because it's none of their damn business and they should get a hobby

    MrDjEnjoyMrDjEnjoy3 цагийн өмнө
  • 3/5 no way dude 0 is my vote 1/5 if you twist my arm. If John only wanted closure he would sign the waiver

    Nate BealNate Beal21 цагийн өмнө
  • 1st story: Very suspicious waiting till he died.....ESPECIALLY if the dead guy had any brothers (or even the grandfather's uncle or own father) that John's mom could have slept with....because that would still show close to the same % of similarities to OP genetically (and enough to cast doubt in court).....but it would not to the actual grandfather which would completely explain why he wouldn't try to interact with him at all while alive but instead wait till after the death and only want to test OP.

    Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • Rslash wrong again.

    GizmoGizmoӨдрийн өмнө
  • Story 1 - I don't think OP is at all in the wrong for trying to protect his grandfather's house. Even if John were to be genetically related, he's not family. Not even known to the grandfather or OP until he popped up after the old man bit it. He's coming out of the woodwork with a big ask even before inheritance is considered and OP has zero obligation to him. John's position sucks if he's being upright about it and OP would be doing something nice to go along with his request, but OP is not the asshole for not humoring him. Story 2 - Only 2.5 buttholes? For forcing her own child to live with something that made her absolutely miserable and hate herself and could be easily rectified? Story 4 - It was never established that his wood pile or car were actually eyesores. The HOA, explicitly the HOA, said they were, so it's a load of hot air.

    VenalitorVenalitorӨдрийн өмнө
  • I mean OP gets 0 out of 5 he did nothing wrong too. Some guy randomly comes up and all this hear say stuff right? But lets say op was kind hearted and allowed the dna test and this john guy swoops and takes everything because he was wronged its definitely sketchy not saying none of its true but its just...not normal and the HOA story true they may not be speaking for everyone but at the same time you buy a house to do as you see fit..an eyesore for them could be completely and utterly petty a shelf with wood on it isnt something id call an eyesore most AOH's love to push their weight around again i have to disagree with you.

    VoidXaeroVoidXaero2 өдрийн өмнө
    • Yes very suspicious waiting till he died.....ESPECIALLY if the dead guy had any brothers (or even the grandfather's uncle or own father) that John's mom could have slept with....because that would still show close to the same % of similarities to OP genetically (and enough to cast doubt in court).....but it would not to the actual grandfather which would completely explain why he wouldn't try to interact with him at all while alive but instead wait till after the death and only want to test OP.

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • There are so many posts in this video that I disagree with your judgment on.

    Dord_LiveDord_Live2 өдрийн өмнө
  • John is the asshole through and through. The fact that he showed up after inheritance was announced just sounds fishy.

    Dord_LiveDord_Live2 өдрийн өмнө
    • Yes very suspicious waiting till he died.....ESPECIALLY if the dead guy had any brothers (or even the grandfather's uncle or own father) that John's mom could have slept with....because that would still show close to the same % of similarities to OP genetically (and enough to cast doubt in court).....but it would not to the actual grandfather which would completely explain why he wouldn't try to interact with him at all while alive but instead wait till after the death and only want to test OP. Especially when it said he knew for a couple years.

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • Ok, last story: “have to look at your woodpile”?! Dude, did some HOA outlier hurt you before making this episode? People need to mind their own business and what one does with the property that is theirs is no one else’s business unless it impacts their property value (and I don’t think a simple woodpile can do that). Even then there are better ways to handle it than an HOA. I can’t tell you how much I despise HOA’s and all the little power-tripping jerks who create their rules and the little “good Germans” who enforce them. Maybe I’m just a man out of time but no matter. Clearly I’m in the ever-shrinking minority of people who believe in personal responsibility, giving common respect until given a reason not to, not forcing my beliefs down other people’s throats, and civil discourse when my views and beliefs are at odds with someone else’s. These are not the values of today and that makes me sad. At any rate, I’m moving on from this video... to the “prorevenge” video I spy below. Those and the “malicious compliance” series are hands down my faves. Thanks again, rSlash. Even if I don’t agree with your assessments in this series, your content is still far superior to the vast majority of vacuous dreck one stumbles across on this platform. Keep up the good work, bro.

    galactusholmesgalactusholmes2 өдрийн өмнө
  • No. I just thoroughly disagree with you, rSlash. John approaches OP with the clearly stated goal of finding out if OP’s Pop-Pop was his dad. That’s it. If that is all he wanted then he should be fine with OP’s conditions. He isn’t. His wife makes it abundantly clear that they have ulterior motives. So screw them both. I think it is despicable to use an emotionally charged reason like finding out who your daddy is in order to swipe what isn’t yours from under someone’s nose. Any situation where someone uses another’s grace and good heart to profit makes, in my mind, that person a POS. Life deals you crappy hand sometimes. That doesn’t mean you get to go out and screw someone else over. That simply means you got dealt a crappy hand and need to man up and make your life better by your own hard work. I got to say rslash, I love 98% of your content but every now and again you we differ wildly in our opinions. I still love you though. Your puppers, too. Edit: For some reason it wouldn’t let me post this comment as a direct reply to your pinned question. It only let me post it down here which is weird

    galactusholmesgalactusholmes2 өдрийн өмнө
  • First story - John doesn't necessarily have a claim to the estate. This would depend on the laws in whatever country they are based in. If there was a valid will and John was excluded from this, so be it.

    Ewan DuffyEwan Duffy3 өдрийн өмнө
    • Exactly

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • I don’t think anyone’s the butthole in the house story. Both individuals are acting in their own best interests - and there’s nothing wrong with that. OP is not a butthole for not wanting to give up a huge financial advantage, but neither is John a butthole for asking for a DNA test.

    Simana 98Simana 983 өдрийн өмнө
  • Yeah, I agree with RSlash, he's so thorough and thinking things I could never without him as a guide. I love how you talked about John's perspective.

    Christian OrtizChristian Ortiz4 өдрийн өмнө
  • rSlash you should start a new category for instances like the first case where... they kind of are being the butthole, but with good reason so they should just own it 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Box of ReignBox of Reign5 өдрийн өмнө
    • John's side potentially: AITBH for ignoring my potential nephews demands after I asked him for a DNA test and he responds only if you legally sign away? No explanation or nothing. I don't want to respond because why should I respond to such a disrespect? Might I add, my nephew was gracious enough to have HIS lawyers draft the papers, I should just sign them.

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • The statute of limitations probably apply to that inheritance and the grandparents son would not have a claim.

    glencsiroglencsiro5 өдрийн өмнө
  • Yeah, idk, I'm totally sus with John. Why is he suddenly popping up NOW? After the word of the inheritance? It's uncomfortable to think he genuinely cares about who his father is, cause wouldn't you want to get the chance to meet him? I can understand wanting to know the truth, but the timing is considerably convenient.

    Nephilim CattNephilim Catt5 өдрийн өмнө
    • Let me tell you how it sounds if John made a post: "AITBH for ignoring my potential nephews demands after I asked him for a DNA test and he responds only if you legally sign away? No explanation or nothing. I don't want to respond because why should I respond to such a disrespect? Might I add, my nephew was gracious enough to have HIS lawyers draft the papers, I should just sign them."

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
    • John gave his reasons: he spent most of his life thinking his stepfather was his real dad and, when he finally got a test done, his mother confessed about the affair (after denying it for so long). When he goes to see the GF, he's dead. I honestly don't think it's too much of a stretch and, frankly, even if he was just after the inheritance/money, why shouldn't he get it? Saying he just wants money is speculation but OP literally tried extortion to get what he wants.

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • Rslash, regarding the John Story - did it not occur to you that John and his wife are out right scammers? Why was it that his WIFE phoned up and yelled? and does it not raise HUGE red flags that his WIFE was legit STALKING!!!?? And why of all things, did it take John to COME AFTER the grandfather's DEATH, to approach Op? I'm calling it SCAM!!!

    RebeccaRebecca5 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Random Ramblings Back up, your comment about me makes no sense. I said John's Mom lied to him, which means he had no idea GF was even a possible father until recent (after the GF died). How can he talk to the GF if he didn't know about him??? Plus, what do you mean he could be related to GF's dad. He's just a bit older than OP, and the timeline checks out based on OP's aunt (when they moved and GF and GM had a fall out). It makes sense to assume that he's GF's son. My point was if he's owed anything, if he has any rights to an inheritance, it's up to him, not OP to decide if he's entitled. Calling him 'suspicious' is just you being speculative (which is totally fine, but not the point). OP crossed the line by trying to give him an ultimatum when he doesn't have the right.

      Truth be told...Truth be told...19 цагийн өмнө
    • @Random Ramblings Thank you Random Ramblings for explaining far better!!!

      RebeccaRebeccaӨдрийн өмнө
    • Exactly. Yes very suspicious waiting till he died.....ESPECIALLY if the dead guy had any brothers (or even the grandfather's uncle or own father) that John's mom could have slept with....because that would still show close to the same % of similarities to OP genetically (and enough to cast doubt in court).....but it would not to the actual grandfather which would completely explain why he wouldn't try to interact with him at all while alive but instead wait till after the death and only want to test OP. ESPECIALLY when it said John knew for YEARS that the dead guy was the main suspect. Why not visit while dude is still alive if it was about family or heritage??? 🤔🤔 PLUS if person arguing with Rebecca here was paying attention to his own comment about John's mom lying for so many years, wouldn't it stand to reason that the dead guy wouldn't have even known that John could possibly be his son......so even if he was the biological father, if John cared in the slightest about family he would have talked to him to see if he knew about him while he was still alive. So......... clearly not about family in the slightest to John.

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
    • @Rebecca Agree to disagree. Have a nice day

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Rebecca I was responding to the last comment you made.. What are you talking about?

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • That first one I think you just completely forgo about the wife. Because the guy was totally fine e with a DNA test until the wife started calling him. Like yes he should do the test because that's just a shitty situation but the wife shouldn't of came out swinging like that and freaking him out

    KennedyKennedy6 өдрийн өмнө
  • I disagree on the first post because I think the other guy just wants some of the money from the house and if he would sign the contract then he could find out but OP would still get to keep his house. Yes other guy does deserve to know who his father is but if that's all he wants then why doesn't he sign the dang contract. so final conclusion I think other guy is trying to cop a grab at OP's house money. (sorry don't remember other guys name and I'm to lazy to go back and look also I think other is a good name for him.) As for the last one I'm disappointed in you Rslash he can do whatever he wants with his land (as long as he's not hurting anyone or physically making it harder for someone to do something) even having a wood pile out in the front and if the nice neighbors don't want to look at it then they don't have to. I also agree with the comment Bjoen Snoldars said about story 1 and 4 and mostly with story 3.

    Sheri TindallSheri Tindall6 өдрийн өмнө
    • My opinion is that John did the right thing: ignore OP. This is how it sounds like from John's perspective: AITBH for ignoring my potential nephews demands after I asked him for a DNA test and he responds only if you legally sign away? No explanation or nothing. I don't want to respond because why should I respond to such a disrespect? Might I add, my nephew was gracious enough to have HIS lawyers draft the papers, I should just sign them. I wouldn't sign papers that tries to rip me off out of MY inheritance: especially if the reason is "because I said so". Note that OP explained himself in the post but NOT to John. Also, even though I don't agree with the wife, she's also justified. I mean, imagine your SO is basically being ripped off out of an inheritance and your partner decides to just ignore him. I would be fuming as well if he/she was being taken advantage of. Main point is, OP is a top notch AH who, although has good reasons (like the sentiment stuff), doesn't want to feel guilty for what his doing. Sorry for the long rant but yh.

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • All bs.

    Roxanne HartrichRoxanne Hartrich7 өдрийн өмнө
  • Most of your ratings so far, I say, are BS.

    Roxanne HartrichRoxanne Hartrich7 өдрийн өмнө
    • I agree with you wholeheartedly......Proof some people can't actually view things from another's point of view, only through their own life experiences....but not everyone has the same experiences....

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • This first dude does NOT have a right to the estate. He may have a right to know who his family is but John’s mother did this to him and OP’s grandpa owed everyone an answer. Grandpa is dead now and OP should hold onto the house since he had nothing to do with any of this. If John really just wanted to know his family he would have absolutely signed over rights to the house.

    Javaneh FennellJavaneh Fennell8 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Truth be told... lol okay

      Javaneh FennellJavaneh Fennell4 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Javaneh Fennell this isn't about you though, its about John and, regardless of what his reasons may be, he should recieve his share (or be compensated for it). If it's his, he should get it. Even if he would be willing to agree to sign, OP was agressive from the get get go: John asks for a DNA test and his immediate response is "only if you sign away your inheritance"? Oh yeah, and when he says don't worry, I'll have my lawyers draft one for you :) ? Not only is that disrespectful, but also incredibly degrading. At the very least, he deserves an explanation. OP goes out of his way to explain to internet strangers but not the guy actually affected. IMO, OP is the AH, even if he has valid reasons, and wants none of the guilt, which is BS. You tried extorting a man out if an inheritance by dangling a DNA test in front of him. Top of the bunch AH stuff. IMO, OP is the AH while John did nothing but ignore the guy who tried to extort him. The timing and circumstances in suck, but if OP had done things the right way, the only guy who's at fault is the GF (grandfather by the way).

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
    • And I would like to add that it I found out my dad wasn’t my dad and some other man was but his family wanted me to sign over any rights I had to their things to get a DNA test I would happily do it to just know the man I know as my dad wasn’t my dad. I don’t want other people’s stuff.

      Javaneh FennellJavaneh Fennell8 өдрийн өмнө
  • Simple question : If you were switched at birth with some dude, would it be normal for him to get his bio dad's inheritance instead of from the one who raised him ? Let me answer, it doesn't make sense. Why ? Because inheritance doesn't make any sense in the first place. Your parents job is to help you learn how to be independant, not stockpile assets so you can skip on making a living for yourself. If all inheritances were seized and redistributed to pay for kids, teenagers and young adults school fees, we would have a way healthier society.

    el pel p8 өдрийн өмнө
    • YAY!!!! LOGIC.

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • When it comes to property, there is NO however. He is not in the HOA, it did not exist when he bought it.They have ZERO authority over anything he does with his property.

    Brian BeardBrian Beard8 өдрийн өмнө
  • I feel like the Grandfather is the butthole. Notice how the half-brother only comes in when inheritance becomes something, but op is protecting his inheritance from a logical standpoint. Neither or doing this to be morally correct, but ultimately it is the grandpa because of his neglect to write a will and his cheating issue.

    Kingston PhillipsKingston Phillips8 өдрийн өмнө
  • About the niece and the surgery - NTA. Ok so it’s obvious you’re not. 1, Jenny needed it. 2, it was a serious problem to her mental health, and 3, she has a right to be happy. Also Jenny is 18. If she’s ok with it and you’re ok with it, the tummy tuck to make her life more bearable is totally ok. If she was a minor however, telling her mom would have to be crucial but in this case she isn’t. Thanks OP for giving your niece some more happiness

    TillieTillie10 өдрийн өмнө
  • I don't agree with any word you said about the first story I think you are very very very very very very very very wrong.

    life of B3ASTlife of B3AST10 өдрийн өмнө
    • Exactly. Yes very suspicious waiting till he died.....ESPECIALLY if the dead guy had any brothers (or even the grandfather's uncle or own father) that John's mom could have slept with....because that would still show close to the same % of similarities to OP genetically (and enough to cast doubt in court).....but it would not to the actual grandfather which would completely explain why he wouldn't try to interact with him at all while alive but instead wait till after the death and only want to test OP. ESPECIALLY when it said John knew for YEARS that the dead guy was the main suspect. Why not visit while dude is still alive if it was about family or heritage??? 🤔🤔 PLUS (and why is no one talking about this part?) With John's mom lying for so many years, wouldn't it stand to reason that the dead guy wouldn't have even known that John could possibly be his son......so even if he was the biological father, if John cared in the slightest about family he would have talked to him to see if he knew about him while he was still alive. So......... clearly not about family in the slightest to John.

      Random RamblingsRandom RamblingsӨдрийн өмнө
  • on the first story, I think OP is NTA. He didn't deny John of knowing who his father is, the only thing he asked for was to not lose his money (and, let's not forget, his *childhood home*). If what John really wanted was just to know who his father is, he would've signed the waiver in a heartbeat, but the facts that 1-he didn't sign and 2-that his wife started stalking OP, in my eyes, is all the proof needed to know it was about the inheritance. Furthermore, isn't it so convenient that the guy decided to speak up just after his potential father died, even with admitting to suspect that he was the grandfather's son for *a few years*, when the grandfather couldn't defend himself anymore? John didn't want closure. He wanted a piece of the pie.

    Letícia Evangelista FerreiraLetícia Evangelista Ferreira10 өдрийн өмнө
    • I think he is because of this: 1) He tried extortion: What you called a waiver has a quid pro quo statement proceeding it - DNA test in exchange for you signing away your rights to any inheritance (oh, btw I'll have my lawyers draft you a paper). Note this is without warning, implicative and the absolute worst way to respond to "Can you do me a favour and do me a DNA test pls?" 2) He didn't explain himself. What makes this story so much worse is that if OP had explained himself, I might even think John was solely thinking about the money. But handing out waivers and threatening lawyers without any explanation is bad etiquette at best and incredibly rude (why would you expect him to sign away his rights?) My response is simple: if John has a right to the inheritance, he should get it. If OP wants to talk him out of it, try to explain why he doesn't want to sell and THEN have him sign or set up an arrangement, that's up to him (if related). But whatever reason John might have, he should get what's rightfully his. It sucks but the only person to blame then would be the grandfather (GF), but that's not the case rn as OP has stuck his feet in the mud. IMO, OP is the AH, even though he has valid (albeit selfish) reasons, but wants to get away with robbing John out of an inheritance without any guilt. At least own up to your actions M8.

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • Do you think John would have showed up if OP inherited debt from his parents?

    spongebob4ever and everspongebob4ever and ever11 өдрийн өмнө
    • @spongebob4ever and ever But it IS THO! OP wouldn't have had him sign the papers if he didn't think he has a case! Take a step back and think: OP only received the money because his related to GF, and the only one under his care. He didn't know about John. So John shouldn't get anything because his "just related" but OP should keep the house? Plus my points were that a) OP didn't explain himself (which might have helped), 2) why did he go for the nuclear option? (By bringing in lawyers instead of talking) and 3) In the case that money is his, what possible way could he get HIS inheritance without being called a scammer and a thief? He didn't do anything wrong and when he thought OP was being unreasonable (which he is), he backed off. I'm glad you actually listened my point. Those other "commenters" often don't want anything criticising thier moral stances. My point was that if he deserves it and the courts find him to be a relative, he should get it. You can't blame a guy for taking what's rightfully his and find it hypocritical that OP can keep his inheritance but John can't get his.

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Truth be told... yes John did go through crap and he has a right to know who his father is but what I’m trying to say is I think (and I’m not alone in this other comments are saying the same) that John most likely wouldn’t have showed up if his supposed dad didn’t own a fancy estate and lots of money also you saying the money is his pretty sure op’s grandparents left all of their money and estate to OP and not John. Just because John is potentially related to the grandfather doesn’t mean the money automatically belongs to him.

      spongebob4ever and everspongebob4ever and ever4 өдрийн өмнө
    • @spongebob4ever and ever So? If he's owed money or an inheritance, he should get it. IMO, saying that he did it for money is ignoring the BS he went through with his mom and stepdad. *He could want both*, and wouldn't be wrong for wanting that! Even if he just wanted the money it doesn't make him TA: he could want it for valid reasons, maybe more valid than things like "s Point is, If it's his, he should get it and if OP and others wants to blame someone, then they should blame the GF (also OP is an AH imo)

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
    • @Truth be told... I put parents instead of grandparents MNthe wont let me edit the comment for some reason and my point is if op had inherited debt than yes John would inherit that too but obviously nobody wants to inherit debt and John only showed up after the grandparents died so one could assume he doesn’t give a shot about dna only the money and estate

      spongebob4ever and everspongebob4ever and ever4 өдрийн өмнө
    • 1) I assume you mean Father and 2) You're asking the wrong question here. If John is owed something he should get. Note that this depends on the legal court system and him being related. If he is related, and the courts specify and alter the inheritance, why should he not get is the question?

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • Bro the first one your slash you crazy -1 butthole for op 5 for the “brother”

    Todd MatchieTodd Matchie11 өдрийн өмнө
    • I think OP is because of this: 1) He tried extortion: That "waiver" mentioned by OP is not stand alone and has a quid pro quo statement proceeding it - DNA test in exchange for you signing away your rights to any inheritance (oh, btw I'll have my lawyers draft you a paper). Note this is without warning, implicative and the absolute worst way to respond to "Can you do me a favour and do me a DNA test pls?" 2) He didn't explain himself. What makes this story so much worse is that if OP had explained himself, I might even think John was solely thinking about the money. But handing out waivers and threatening lawyers without any explanation is bad etiquette at best and incredibly rude (why would you expect him to sign away his rights?) My response is simple: if John has a right to the inheritance, he should get it. If OP wants to talk him out of it, try to explain why he doesn't want to sell and THEN have him sign or set up an arrangement, that's up to him (if related). But whatever reason John might have, he should get what's rightfully his. It sucks but the only person to blame then would be the grandfather (GF), but that's not the case rn as OP has stuck his feet in the mud. IMO, OP is the AH, even though he has valid (albeit selfish) reasons, but wants to get away with robbing John out of an inheritance without any guilt. At least own up to your actions M8. John did nothing except ignore OP, which deserves Tl:dr, I agree 💯, just switch the names and we're golden!

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • Mom is the butthole. It sounds like the mom didn’t tell grandpa he had another kid. Therefore, grandpa didn’t know. Both OP and Jon want what’s beneficial (and fair) to their beliefs. And it sounds like OP doesn’t want to sell the estate, not necessarily that he doesn’t want to give Jon money if he is grandpa’s son. Maybe get a legal document of a fair amount for Jon prior to DNA IF he is the son.

    Aylin YinAylin Yin12 өдрийн өмнө
  • If there is a will, " john" can kick rocks.

    Katyb DortonKatyb Dorton12 өдрийн өмнө
  • I like you but you were way off of the mark. Why don't you have someone else come tell you what to do on your property that you paid for and see how you like it. Its a matter of its a free country. It's Noones business what he does and even though he has nice neighbors why is that a reason for him to do what the hoa wants? Obviously it isn't bugging them or they would say something. Just cause there is wood and a car sitting there doesn't mean that the place looks rundown. I like your shows but a couple more of these type of videos where you are so off the mark and I'm going to have to stop watching.

    Rebecca SawyerRebecca Sawyer12 өдрийн өмнө
  • Yes you got the first one wrong. The wife of the other guy shows the only reason he wants to know is for the money. He already knows that he is related cause his mother told him. The fault also lies with the guys mother. Honestly anyone would be the same way. I don't think he is even morally wrong simply cause its obvious the intentions of the illegitimate person.

    Rebecca SawyerRebecca Sawyer12 өдрийн өмнө
    • What's wrong with his intentions? If it's his money, he should get. Ignore OP's biased and derailed explanation for his actions because he didn't have the decency to explain to John. Imagine if John made a post: AITBH for ignoring my potential nephews demands after I asked him for a DNA test and he responds only if you legally sign away? No explanation or nothing. I don't want to respond because why should I respond to such a disrespect? Might I add, my nephew was gracious enough to have HIS lawyers draft the papers, I should just sign them. See it from his perspective. Also, so what if he wants the money? Not only is it perfectly fine to want both money and the DNA test results, if it's his he shouldn't be deprived of his share. At the very least he deserves an explanation. OP went out of his way to explain his circumstances to a bunch of internet strangers but not the guy who is actually affected by his decisions. Just a drafted paper, threats of lawyers and an ultimatum: your inheritance or this DNA test, when frankly he could deserve both. OP definitely TA

      Truth be told...Truth be told...4 өдрийн өмнө
  • I personally don't agree with the last story i think op is perfectly in the right

    Sukaina TashfeenSukaina Tashfeen12 өдрийн өмнө
  • This is the first time I've disagreed with every single one of RSlashes butthole scores... *le sigh* lol

    KikiSweets_01KikiSweets_0113 өдрийн өмнө
  • OP 0 out of 5 because even if John was in the picture we don’t know if he would be part of the will because the grandparents didn’t give anything to there daughter so why give some to the other kid assuming they are both related the aunt to grandparents as well

    Connor PhalenConnor Phalen13 өдрийн өмнө
  • To the OP who didn’t want a prenup, you’re a moron. Prenups should be the norm, not something some people do. Literally the ONLY people who argue against having prenups are naive children who think their future is always going to be butterflies and rainbows, or gold diggers. It means your partner is realistic. If you go into a marriage 100% convinced that there is no possible way you could ever get divorced, you have the mentality of a child. If OP does make much more money than her hubby, then that means she’s just childish.

    Patton DurioPatton Durio13 өдрийн өмнө
  • Other dude has no right to the estate, even if he is related. Sure, he might be a great guy. However, his mom should have tried to get child support from the grandpa, or at least told him about his estranged son. The grandpa probably didn’t even know this kid existed, and therefore owes him nothing, which means the kid who inherited it owes him nothing as well. I don’t blame the guy who wants the test. I blame his mother for being a cheating scumbag. Edit: to everyone saying it’s the grandpa’s fault, you are wrong. Sure, the grandpa is trash for cheating. However, the mom who lied to her son about his actual father deserves all of the blame here. If the grandpa had KNOWN he had a child, he might have wanted to help the kid out. We can’t know that for sure of course. The mom could have filed for child support. She takes 100% of the blame in this situation.

    Patton DurioPatton Durio13 өдрийн өмнө
  • Sign the damn prenup🤯

    Fire_ant_ 187xFire_ant_ 187x13 өдрийн өмнө
  • HOAs are ALWAYS the A-hole. I don't think OP deserves ant butthole points.

    Cathy SlyterCathy Slyter13 өдрийн өмнө
  • why tf are they trying to control someone getting deliveries to their own house

    Internet duckInternet duck13 өдрийн өмнө
  • why doesn't john just sign the thing that says he can't claim the property, then get the dna test? if he only wants to see who his dad is it shouldn't be too hard

    Internet duckInternet duck13 өдрийн өмнө
  • For the inheritance story I don’t think he is the asshole at all. Rslash you made a good point but inheritance is suppose to go to the person intended. This man never met his maybe bio dad. He doesn’t get to get rich off of purely his DNA. If that was the case a lot of adopted kids would have legal standing. Also most wills only include recognized children. If he had no proof that the father knew about him then he would have a hard time in court. All in all, if it was really about finding out who his father is then signing away that which was not meant for him should be easy. This is about money and revenge. No one needs that in their lives.

    Kat &co.Kat &co.14 өдрийн өмнө
  • lets look at the first story. the info all depends on the age of john. as the story said, he has a wife. this means he could be 21. this bit shows how the guy could have gone 3 years earlier, but didnt, until the inheritance was shown. the fact that the guy came when the inheritance showed up is important. also when op tried to find a way to keep the home while doing the dna test resulting in his wife getting mad, shows that they only cared about getting the home and selling it. if the wife had not gone berserk, then it would look like john was in the right. rslash overlooked the wife, and that was his main mistake edit: on the third story, the fiance didnt defend the wife, so she stood up for themself. if the husband had defended her, then he would not have been insulted edit 2: can rslash stop messing this stuff up? first it says they, not him. also op said it was not a horrid mess in the post. i hops that next time rslash looks at the info a second time

    The TesterThe Tester14 өдрийн өмнө
  • 6:45 "I dunno, did I get this one wrong?" Yes. Yes you did. It would be NAH if John was only in it to find out who his biological father is. But given that John showed up only after there was money involved, and he and his wife flipped out when OP asked him to sign away his rights to the house, his motives seem highly suspicious. OP has a right to his inheritance, and more than that, a right to his own DNA. It's completely up to OP whether he feels like going through with the DNA test.

    Lindsey HartLindsey Hart15 өдрийн өмнө
  • HOA's deserve an automatic 5/5 AH's, and anyone who opposes them gets 0/5 in my opinion. Seriously, they'll bitch and force people to take down an American flag that the homeowner wishes to display on a house they paid for because "it's against HOA rules". Also this one in story 4 apparently is appalled that OP mows his own lawn? WTF? They don't like OP's truck, and they don't like OP's woodpile. Sounds to me like they just don't like that OP is a functioning adult who prefers to do work themselves. Even if an HOA is started with the best intentions, you know some power hungry shit is going to get voted in as HOA president and abuse the system for their own gain, as well as for any friends they have. Read a story where the HOA president didn't like someone's old truck being outside while the owner worked on it, and had it towed. Owner got it back but then the HOA pres had it towed again and managed to get the truck crushed. In retaliation the owner clogged the cul-de-sac with broke down cars which nearly bankrupted the HOA with towing fees. The neighbors created the HOA, they don't deserve courtesy from OP when they try to use it to force OP to to conform to rules that don't apply. It wouldn't surprise me if the HOA and the neighbors are trying to get OP to leave the neighborhood by harassing them. I've heard rumor that if you really want to mess with an HOA when they hassle you, then ask the Federal Communications Commission if you can put a radio tower on your property. Supposedly the FCC really supports putting communications towers where available, and since they're part of the Federal Government an HOA can't do much, if anything, to stop it. Only the homeowner can. If this is true, I'd definitely do it if an HOA got on my back.

    airplanenut89airplanenut8915 өдрийн өмнө
  • 1/5 Buttholes for trying to steal half someone’s inheritance? Damn rSlash damn He’s just giving controversial opinion so he gets more comments, well played rSlash 👍

    FireIron 36FireIron 3616 өдрийн өмнө
  • Wait, didn't the guy in story one say that he WOULD do a blood test? He only said the other guy had to give up any claim he might have on his family home. That's not a butthole thing to do at all! He's just protecting his family home that he grew up in. The other guy if he really wanted to know who his father was, would just have to not try and steal the guy's house. He didn't stop him from finding out who his father was, he only stopped him from being able to use that knowledge to steal his home!

    Brandon RankinBrandon Rankin16 өдрийн өмнө
  • 1st story: "How 'bout you sing off any inheritance in case you are related to me... you know, so i'm not HOMELESS" rSLAHS: 3.5 AH, nope dude, if op's supposed uncle IS looking for his "lost family" he wouldn't had showned up AFTER the old man died, the timing simply is suspicious... at best 3rd story: "My small peepee hurts because my mom is an entitled asshole and i feel emasculated because my wife is ACTUALLY more succesful than me", nah dude, he didn't stood up for her, and "emasculating" as it is used in the context of the story and western culture in general is just a stupid way to blame women (or anyone) into believing that being on par or better at something than their partner or any male in general is somehow bad. Eat. a. bunch. of .dicks 4th story: "'i've lived here prior to the HOA and they want to ticket me out of not wanting to see things ON MY PROPERTY" easy 0/5 AH, dude, if you aint part of an HOA, you should NOT be bothered by these assholes judging op, while doing anything, ON HIS PROPERTY, bothering or not, wdym "Even though, the HOA spokespeople does not represents them all, all your neighbours incuding the ones that have been nice to you, have to experience the same thing the HOA is complaining about" yeah, like HELL HOAs represent anything but chasgrabbers looking for a way to get the slightest amount of power to enrich their puny life, and LIKE HELL if op can't do WHAT EVER THE FUCK HE WANTS in his property. Man, Rslash, are you ok? you missed EVERYTHING on this video.

    german ROJAS LEONgerman ROJAS LEON16 өдрийн өмнө
  • Story 1: it’s a family home op said they were not going to sell the house they have the right to keep the house because John didn’t even know the grandpa, so it may be his dad he had no interest in him for his whole life he could have found out earlier but didn’t that’s his fault not ops, op also has the right to refuse and give him the options he did

    Chey cheyChey chey16 өдрийн өмнө
  • Jon is not the a hole for wanting to know but if that’s all he wanted to know then why not sign, sounds a bit like he wanted to possibly come for the money. And I say this as someone who’s father who left after I was born. I’ve never really got to know him til later in life which didn’t go well... for him. You don’t need to know who you father is to live your life to the fullest .

    Patriot DadPatriot Dad17 өдрийн өмнө
  • I really disagree with your take on the HOA story. If your neighbour has their work stuff or car in their yard, how does that affect you in any way? You don't like the way it looks? Who cares? It's not your property, part of living in a community is minding your own business and leaving people be. His stuff on his property isn't harming or affecting anyone and isn't anyone's business.

    LoverleezackLoverleezack17 өдрийн өмнө
  • I'm sorry I disagree yet again with you, rSlash. OP is not in the wrong here, morally or otherwise. He gave his 'could be' half brother the option to sign over his rights to inheretance claims from his 'could be' late father in order to get a DNA test. A test that OP is willing to play with the idea that he might have a half uncle. (OP's grandfather's son is an uncle not a brother) If I wanted to know who my father was, I wouldn't care about money nor rights to what my father has. You know what my father left me when he died? An empty wallet. That's it. He never provided for me nor my mom - he was a dead beat. But I don't care what I got out of him, because I knew who he was, I knew who I was related to and I knew would I could expect in my own life. OP's 'could be' step uncle is not an asshole either, he is just a selfish person, OR his wife is the selfish one - from we read. It's the wife that is the issue. I say lawyer up, if he wants a DNA test from someone, it's their right to say no. To clarity, OP is being generous here - he is willing to give a stranger his time to do a DNA test. It's OP's right to protect himself, and it's not his obligation to take on his grandfather's skeletons. Morally OP is more in the right here than anyone in this story.

    Nanukk LuikNanukk Luik17 өдрийн өмнө
  • his land, his rules. If he signed something that states he doesn't have to be a part of an HOA, then he doesn't have to. What someone does with their land, is their business, never mind the neighbors

    orangreeffectorangreeffect17 өдрийн өмнө
    • Apparently if you want to flex against an HOA, have plans to get a radio antenna installed. FCC regs allow for dishes/antennae that are within reason for the property, and since its a Federal rule, there's not a damn thing an HOA can do about it.

      airplanenut89airplanenut8915 өдрийн өмнө
  • If his main objective is finding out who his father is then why is John and his wife bugging OP (the grandson) instead of the deceased's daughter, who would be a closer DNA match?

    Sauntevia MajorSauntevia Major17 өдрийн өмнө
  • The story of john you forgot to rate his wife 😂 I agree with you on the other stuff like op is protecting his self and poor john needs answers but his wife had no right to do what she did

    Taya BriggsTaya Briggs18 өдрийн өмнө
  • If John was really that curious about who his father is he would agree to not make a 20-something year old with one (1) living relative homeless, he has a wife so I would just assume he has his own place, he wouldn't be giving up anything but he would give his possible nephew a security blanket

    Freyja SóldísFreyja Sóldís18 өдрийн өмнө
  • Oh right, this video. Welp, time to skip to the next one in the playlist, the much more reasonably-rated one

    SirinSirin18 өдрийн өмнө
  • I would keep my estate, morales have no part in my actions.

    Veteran of BaalVeteran of Baal18 өдрийн өмнө
  • I rarely disagree with rslash but on the last two stories I did today. I think the woman standing up for herself was completely in the right. If her husband doesn’t want his family to know how successful she is compared to him then that’s his problem and if he doesn’t like it maybe he should work on himself and his own success rather than get mad at his fiancé for standing up for herself and stating facts when he wouldn’t stand up for her. The second story I think rslash is a bit off too - maybe it’s because I’m from the U.K. and we don’t have HOAs because no one would put up with that here 😂 but I think it’s his land and he isn’t part of the HOA so why can’t he do whatever he wants? Yeah not all the neighbours are nagging him but if you’re really that offended by a pile of wood on SOMEBODY ELSES land then I think you need a reality check. Just my opinion

    Levy LuxLevy Lux18 өдрийн өмнө
  • First story: John’s first interest in to know who fits father is. He didn’t say the wants the part of the inheritance, so I don’t see any reason to not decline rights to the inheritance. Also, John showed up *after* grandpa died, which is too convenient.

    VeeAyyDeeVeeAyyDee18 өдрийн өмнө
  • i feel like even if john was indeed related he still shouldn't be entitled to something a man who never even seen his face much less know his name me personally don't think that he should get his inhertance from that man

    mj jmmj jm18 өдрийн өмнө
  • I think no we HAVE to have an update to the first story I wanna know the ending because if we dont then that's just cruel in itself

    Rainbow CakeRainbow Cake19 өдрийн өмнө
  • Nah Rslash. Morally John should be happy to find his extended biological family not be money hungry. He barely knew his father. Bad things happen to everyone that doesn’t make you an entitled victim.

    KeerthanaKeerthana20 өдрийн өмнө
  • Rslash I usually like this but no. This is just NO. The first story anyways. He conveniently wrote the letter AFTER he died. OP grew up in that house after grieving his parents, grandfather being the only fatherly figure in his life from that point. He got fucked, utterly so. Giving up the rights to his FAMILY HOME and all his money and his future children over a DNA test? Also not to mention he was willing to do it if he didn't end up homeless and then the guy blew the fuck up? Nah, he's looking for money he doesn't care who his dad is or else he would've signed it. The grandfather was basically his adopted dad as well. You seem really heartless in this one rslash ngl. Complete disagree.

    Chrono CorvusChrono Corvus20 өдрийн өмнө
    • Besides this the title is totally wrong. You make it sound like it's confirmed he's his half brother when he's just a random stranger he has quite literally never met and just sent a random letter saying that he MIGHT be his half brother and now he wants the (basically) adopted(?) Grandsons money with the grandfather BEING HIS FATHERLY FIGURE. The grandfather has never been there for the other guy and never even spoke to him.

      Chrono CorvusChrono Corvus20 өдрийн өмнө
  • The first one I don’t think anyone’s the asshole beside the wife putting him on blast like that she get 1/5

    DADDYDADDY21 өдрийн өмнө
  • Why is everyone an ass in Rslash's eyes now?

    Jase HJase H21 өдрийн өмнө
    • According to one reply chain there are two possibilities: 1) rSlash is playing the algorithm by purposefully getting people to comment and keep the video active through comments on how they disagree and he's wrong. 2) He's tired and a bit worn out from life outside of YT, and it's starting to affect his judgement in these stories. Personally I think its just that people will always disagree because we're different.

      airplanenut89airplanenut8915 өдрийн өмнө
  • OP of last story needs to contact a lawyer and get a cease and desist plus a formal trespassing order on the members of the HOA, the management company and any future management company's

    Sean JSean J21 өдрийн өмнө
  • 12:12 although to be fare OP was put in an improbable situation that her MIL instigated, sure she did basically embarrassing her husband about her success but only because MIL kept demanding for her to get a prenup and falsely accuse her of being a gold digger. Is OP wrong for saying that? Absolutely, but I believe the only reason she said was to silence her Bitch of a MIL, because if you had an exstended family member or otherwise meddle in personal relationship affairs, you'd want to give them the 🐦 as well

    Josh_the_ jesterJosh_the_ jester21 өдрийн өмнө
  • rSlash I dont agree with the fist storey just because the full picture isn't there we don't know if that guy is actually just trying to get the estate, we don't know if there really was an affair we don't know if even if there is or was an affair that the guy is related to op. The timing of when this guy popped up is too coincidental and should raise red flags for scam. There's a lot more that op can loose if he takes the chance than if he waits out and makes sure that the guy waves his right. Because I'm sure if all he wants is to know who his father was then there should not be any issues with the ownership of the estate.

    Juan Manuel Calderon ValverdeJuan Manuel Calderon Valverde22 өдрийн өмнө
  • You missed the mark on most of these stories

    Chase TamsettChase Tamsett22 өдрийн өмнө
  • Man I’m just 12 and this is confusing

    Kash BolanKash Bolan22 өдрийн өмнө
  • If he really wanted to find out who his dad was he would sign the wavier…but no its about claiming money from a family he didnt know. He may get money from his own mother but op has a just a house.

    GuitarbarellaGuitarbarella22 өдрийн өмнө
  • John is probably a 5/5 butthole, but it's tricky to tell.

    B r u h W h yB r u h W h y22 өдрийн өмнө
  • The second story is borderline emotional abuse if it isn’t, they were denying something that could help her improve

    Mars does somethingMars does something23 өдрийн өмнө
  • And honestly, I really don't think it's OPs problem. Yeah, John has a right to know who his father is, but whatever his grandfather did or didn't do is not OPs fault or responsibility to fix. If I were him I would steer away from this too. And it's really suspicious that he is showing up only now that they are dead.

    foundsomething goodfoundsomething good23 өдрийн өмнө
  • Not an a-hole

    Anagh AnuragAnagh Anurag23 өдрийн өмнө
  • If he would have stood up for her she never would have had to stand up for herself. You were wrong to give her butthole points she did protected herself when his family belittle her about their finances. If it were me I would have just been like you know what MOM your right let’s sign that shall we!

    Jennifer JonesJennifer Jones23 өдрийн өмнө
  • First story: OP 0.5/5 John 3/5. 2nd story: OP 0/5 OPs sister is 10/5

    AboodAbood23 өдрийн өмнө
  • OP is not the ButtHole, since he gave the option for a DNA test, with the catch being John giving up ownership of the house. He did not accept this, even though the house was in OP's name. Though yes, I do not think John is a but hole either. Both get 1/5 buttholes for being greedy for the inheritance.

    izabella izabellaizabella izabella24 өдрийн өмнө
  • With the HOA story, I've got one statement that's a suggestion to live by, show me some basic respect, and I'll return the favor if you keep showing me that basic respect.

    Ahlanna SheaAhlanna Shea24 өдрийн өмнө
  • What if rSlash is just going against the statements to get more interaction. I'd say it's working lol

    RatholomewRatholomew24 өдрийн өмнө
  • In regard to the 3rd story, I think OP's husband should just deal with it. I don't want to sound mean, but if getting bullied by people who don't respect your boundaries is the alternative to having your spouse ridiculed by those same people, then it's probably the better option. I know family is important, and the fact that he's getting bullied by the people he grew up with and likely cares about can't be too pleasant. That being said, it doesn't seem like he's even trying to stick up for himself, let alone his wife

    RatholomewRatholomew24 өдрийн өмнө
  • Don't think op is the buthole, mostly because he isn't denying John his right to know who his father is, he informed John that as long as he would sign away any potential right for the inheritance he would do the dna test, but apparently John doesn't want the father without the inheritance, his wife kinda already confirmed that they just wanted the inheritance because if they really only wanted to know for peace of mind and maybe getting to know any family John might have then they would have already signed such a waiver. So for me there are no butholes except John's wife.

    Simone AndreassenSimone Andreassen24 өдрийн өмнө
  • Disagree with the first one. Sure, He's looking for his Dad. And OP agreed to do the test IF he signed off the rights. Fairs fair.

    Nashi DragneelNashi Dragneel24 өдрийн өмнө
  • r slash has never had more white middle class opinions

    Dylan DavisDylan Davis24 өдрийн өмнө
  • how the fuck is having (1) shelf and cars in the yard disrespectful to the other neighbors???? they need to mind their business. r slash needs to mind hi business as well yall weird.

    Dylan DavisDylan Davis24 өдрийн өмнө
  • How come John's wife is the one that is going after finding out who's John's father is? why isn't John requesting all this information or even fighting for it?

    girl4spideygirl4spidey24 өдрийн өмнө
  • My husband and I have a prenup, but not for planning for divorce. Oir country is incredibly corrupt and identity theft is a big problem. Tje prenup was drafted to protect us in the event of something happening

    Hermien de LangeHermien de Lange25 өдрийн өмнө
  • For the first story another b hole is the wife u mean she literally STALKS op which we dont know if jhon has anything to do with justified or not stalking is a b hoke thing to do

    Arish BaigArish Baig25 өдрийн өмнө
  • No. If John was really in this just to know who his father is, it would have ended with "sign away claim to the estate". If he isn't after anything, he would sign the paper, get the test, know for sure and that's the end of it. The fact that he hesitated when he was presented with the stipulation and that his girlfriend is going up OP's ass for suggesting he SIGN a PAPER - the horror - means there's something ulterior here. OP didn't even say that he's not willing to give John anything, just that John isn't suddenly able to make a legal claim against the estate, forcing OP to sell his home, move and deal with the headache involved in that. Those aren't small changes to make. Playing the "John has the right to know who is father is" card is just a moral smokescreen to try and force OP's hand. And yes, suddenly appearing into someone's life and saying "Hey I might be entitled to some of your dead family member's money" with barely any human connection to that individual is more than a 1/5 a hole move. That's super discomforting even if the people on the other end mean well.

    AlterationAAlterationA25 өдрийн өмнө
  • You Americans are incredibly seflish people. So the guy was born out of wedlock, tossed aside like garbage, fed a bunch of lies all his life and now his self-absorbed half-brother doesn't want to share the inheritance of the bastard that conceived him after living the life that John had every right to live as well as him? Wow. Just fucking wow. No, OP does NOT have a right to "protect what is his" because it's not his to begin with. Even if there was a will, it should be used for toilet paper as it would've been written by a guy without any shred of integrity.

    RoughThiefRoughThief25 өдрийн өмнө
  • F that layer up shut him out. John just wants money.

    jam yourjamjam yourjam25 өдрийн өмнө
  • Nah your good f that he can kick rocks.

    jam yourjamjam yourjam25 өдрийн өмнө
  • I give R/ 3/5 bungholes for this video.

    vampvamp25 өдрийн өмнө
  • Yeah 1st one is not the but hole it would be one thing if he was trying for years to connect the grand dad, and kept getting the run around, in that case I would even agree with a payout although not from the house itself if they have a house like that there’s assets somewhere else to cover it. But to show up right after the grand dad died and trying to envolée the grandson and then when the grandson says they’ll do what you want they just don’t want to lose their home (said nothing of any other type of inheritance) your wife starts stalking them? No that highly suspicious

    Jordyn BrownJordyn Brown25 өдрийн өмнө
  • why does the HOA and the people therein get to decide whats an eyesore? you say "well, its kinda a dick move to make the other innocent people have to look at that" but one, its wood. if you cant handle the sight of WOOD- my wood on my property no less- you arent worth enough respect for me to do anything for you without compensation (whatever form that may take being irrelevant, not necessarly cash). two, what if tomorrow, i decide that VW bugs are offensive? does that make anyone who owns a VW bug a dick for not ridding themselves of it (or at least place it out of sight)? and what exactly is the alternative to "living in a community"? remember, most people have jobs that have an actual location, and for them its not as simple as moving into the country miles from people, cause you gotta do something for money. the dude was there first, in the most literal way possible, therefore, he makes the rules on his property, deal with it.

    Ethan HauffEthan Hauff25 өдрийн өмнө
  • Like a lot of posts here have said - I think this guy's timing is really suspect! He has had every reason to question his paternity for years, but somehow he has only *now* just decided to find out if OP's grandfather is his father??? Isn't it true that he can ask the court to find out his paternity using medical info by proving that he has good reason to suspect it? If I were OP I'd work out a deal where this guy gets *part* of the estate - NOT half *IF* he proves to be his uncle. I think that he will probably have to come to terms with losing the house, but I don't think he should be forced to lose half of his inheritance.

    Jayjen35Jayjen3525 өдрийн өмнө