r/AmITheA**hole She Mocked a Widow About Her Dead Baby 😱

r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, a young mother tragically lost her husband and one of her young children in a car accident, leaving her with just one surviving child. During the funeral, OP's sister-in-law decides to excitedly announce to the world that she's pregnant. She even comes up to the grieving widow and says that she hopes that she doesn't have to go through what the widow went through. OP the entitled woman out of the funeral for being so incredibly disrespectful. Is he the butthole in this situation?

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  • I read the title as "mocked her dead body" 💀

    poffletpofflet23 цагийн өмнө
  • The first story I agree with overall but I do think she should have give at least one warning just to try to stop her

    Pizzatc 0Pizzatc 0Өдрийн өмнө
  • I feel bad for james

    Orion InkoOrion InkoӨдрийн өмнө
  • Lady with the wicked step-sister.... your father is covering for her, let him pay.... eventually she will do something he can't bail her out of.

    Susan SusanSusan Susan2 өдрийн өмнө
  • The lady is SO pregnant. Like, 4 days pregnant? Omg. She's made it so far into her pregnancy!

    Husker_KIdHusker_KId4 өдрийн өмнө
  • No you should tell the police because how she going to learn

    Skullboy PhantomSkullboy Phantom4 өдрийн өмнө
  • It's not just an argument about the violin. It's an argument about OP's livelihood.

    Kayleigh LehrmanKayleigh Lehrman9 өдрийн өмнө
  • I just love his Karen voice

    DiSgOsTANGDiSgOsTANG9 өдрийн өмнө
  • Very similar thing happened in my family with the sudden loss of three of my cousins and my uncle - SIL gets 5/5 a**hole for trying to make a FUNERAL all about her

    Mary BMary B10 өдрийн өмнө
  • Regarding bullying, there is such a thing as unintentional bullying, where someone's simply being more rambunctious than what another would prefer or where someone gets a nickname they find humiliating, even if "the average person" wouldn't find the behavior rambunctious or the nickname humiliating. In such cases, it is best to talk it out and get such things cleared up. Not everything bad is malicious, and whenever the possibilities are malice or ignorance, please explore the ignorance option first before coming down on someone like some "righteous hammer of justice".

    Cyraneth VamarossCyraneth Vamaross10 өдрийн өмнө
  • Everyone in the comments: omg how horrible! Me: AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO NOTICED THE VOILIN MUSIC IN THE BACKGROUND IN THE LAST STORY!!!!!

    saperlingsaperling10 өдрийн өмнө
  • To the story of the wedding venue; Ladies get passwords from the people holding your deposits. It takes little to no time to assign a password to a venue, a photographer, caters, etc,.. so there's no chance this could wreck your wedding plans and covers your choices. Even if you don't think anyone in either family is capable of doing something like this, just do it for piece of mind.

    Boosh0070Boosh007011 өдрийн өмнө
  • It should be called "Is it okay to stand up for yourself?"

    Bret .MaverickBret .Maverick12 өдрийн өмнө
  • First one seems sus. It’s the evil step-family trope all over again. But jeez, as someone who is studying a social work degree, I question the social worker sister’s job performance. I worry for her clients.

    WannabeHistorian692WannabeHistorian69213 өдрийн өмнө
  • The audacity of some people just- why

    Vira Catherine TrinidadVira Catherine Trinidad15 өдрийн өмнө
  • I can't imagine what goes through someone's mind to think it's okay to do that to a woman who lost their husband and two of their children. Then get upset when someone puts your entitled ass in place over it. She probably didn't even tell her family that she was flaunting her pregnancy at this poor womans funeral of her husband and children. But again I can see that being entitled runs in this idiots family.

    Suzy Boyle AndersonSuzy Boyle Anderson15 өдрийн өмнө
  • The step sister did the right thing to report her! Op is a hero

    Art blenderArt blender15 өдрийн өмнө
  • She was wrong she went behind her whole family's back over an issue that could have been resolved in the family ie both family's meeting together or something. I think the whole I didnt expect that reaction bs unless she didn't goto that school she would know about the schools obvious zero tolerance on Bullying policy. Bullying aside which was she should be punished(obviously not expelled it seems like it's the standard name calling and we sing know if Mia is 100% innocent like op said they weren't friends nor did they really associate maybe Mia and OP stepsister had some history that OP dont know about and she was lashing at Mia for that nor do we know how long this was going on)

    Nathan StanhopeNathan Stanhope15 өдрийн өмнө
  • That hole the dad is being a normal dad no she practically a adult and she should get punished thats fraud i think but she should be punished

    z foxy the foxz foxy the fox15 өдрийн өмнө
  • "oh im sorry that you just lost two babies and your fiance butlook at me im pregnante and im gonna have a baby so stop crying and be happy for me" WHO THE FUCK WOULD DO THAT

    ShusjiShusji15 өдрийн өмнө
  • for the party one op gets -5/5 buttholes (there is a negative so it is not 5/5 ok)

    ShusjiShusji15 өдрийн өмнө
  • Dad gets 2/5 buttholes in the wedding venue story. He's an enabler and teaching his stepdaughter that daddy will save her when she does inappropriate things like this Edit: it's pretty bold of the girl in the last story to criticize her musician sister and expect to stay

    smarti1809smarti180915 өдрийн өмнө
  • Bragging about pregnancy at a funeral is a sign of an attention hore, or idiot ie its insulting and rude like saying your grief doesn't matter only I do. Like if you can't hold it in an ounce it on fb not connecting it to the death or funeral. Yes an idiot can think sad+good news =happy but grief needs time to move on and segregated from our other emotions so we can still function while we adjust so funerals are not the time or place to do anything but say sorry for your loss to everyone there better is to hug fulks and let em cry or give em all comfort food. As stated earlier in my post you can still post on social media your good news but not at the same time as talking about the current trauma that should be held seperate. Publicly start a week later that way you'll still get attention and be respectful of those in mourning both are life events that don't just go away.

    Tyto AlbaTyto Alba15 өдрийн өмнө
  • Total right call to go to Mia's parents. I'm a 39 year old and I was bullied for 2 years by other "adults" that I worked with. As a result of this treatment, I attempted suicide on 2 separate occasions. Bullying is NOT OK!! NEVER... EVER.... EVER OK!! We need to teach our kids this so we don't lose them to bullying!!

    MoonSailor82MoonSailor8216 өдрийн өмнө
  • If I was the sister in the violin situation, This is what I would do. I would work more than i usually did so the violin wouldn’t bother me, and so I could soon leave. On my off days I would also ask my sibling to help me work out when they would be practicing so I could find somewhere to go so it wouldn’t bother me. I wouldn’t buy the bed, instead save my money so I could move out.

    SLATERSLATER16 өдрийн өмнө
  • The stories were cool but can we talk about how op named their piano sans

    Shadowfred89 ‘Shadowfred89 ‘16 өдрийн өмнө
    • Quack

      meme duckmeme duck16 өдрийн өмнө
  • "Hey everyone! Great funeral! Guess what... I'm pregnant!" "Wow! You could have announced that literally any other day and we actually would have given a shit! Instead, get the fuck out now and never come back." How is it even possible to be that self-obsessed? And she specifically went to Mary about it! Was she supposed to be happy for her...? "Wow DB (dumb bitch), I know 3 of the 4 people I love most in the world just died at the same time, but I can't help being happy for you!" OP could have pushed her sil down a flight of stairs and still not been the asshole in my eyes. And trying to say "You'll never see my baby or be a parr of our lives if you don't apologize to me!" ...You promise?

    Alex GrimesAlex Grimes16 өдрийн өмнө
  • r/slash is just emotional support for people that are feeling bad for what they did and also running a hilarious youtube channel.

    Kevin KukkKevin Kukk17 өдрийн өмнө
  • I always tell people..you cannot choose blood but you can choose family. It's not your responsibility to house them.

    Antaya FairlessAntaya Fairless17 өдрийн өмнө
  • 11:32 dont all ofbus live in a basment..

    enybody 12enybody 1217 өдрийн өмнө
  • Ok, I haven't listened to the whole episode but I feel like I HAVE to stop and point this out before Rslash goes on with this line of thought of "maybe you could have gone to your stepsister first". She is your STEP SISTER. It's not YOUR responsibility to raise her. You ABSOLUTELY should have gone to adults, and while I would have said you should have gone to your parents first, they OBVIOUSLY didn't care enough to do anything about it, and this is where you would have ended up anyway. You are absolutely NOT the butthole.

    Shaun HortonShaun Horton17 өдрийн өмнө
  • honestly the pregnant woman is just heartless wth

    Mar akiko?Mar akiko?17 өдрийн өмнө
  • I think the last one was a bit of "Choosing Beggars"

    Michael MillerMichael Miller18 өдрийн өмнө
  • Girl who cancelled the wedding by impersonation deserves like 4 or 4.5 buttholes. She intended to ruin OP's wedding and either way is costing her father thousands.

    CAAPlayersCAAPlayers18 өдрийн өмнө
  • 12:05 AYO WHAT?! Noice! But the pregnant talking. Jeez. Like we get that your pregnant but wow!

    Brychael YtBrychael Yt19 өдрийн өмнө
  • I feel so sorry for Mary right now because she lost her husband and two of her children. Your sil is a horrible, selfish, monster that needs some help and I hope she has a miscarriage and tell there family’s that she deserves to cry for what she has done there.

    Carson GregoCarson Grego19 өдрийн өмнө
  • WTH does it take to get a 5/5 ahole on here?!?

    Emma McNeil CowieEmma McNeil Cowie19 өдрийн өмнө
  • the father should make the step sister pay back the cost he had to shell out extra

    Dan DunckerDan Duncker19 өдрийн өмнө
  • The SIL is the biggest b hole

    MattMatt20 өдрийн өмнө
  • I disagree with the wedding venue story verdict. I would vote Everyone Sucks Here. Sister sucks because she’s a conniving bitch, but OP also sucks because she’s making her dad pay for the venue - which he can’t afford if he has to sell property to do so - when OP and her fiancé are more financially stable. If OP decided not to file a police report, I think the sister should pay. Obviously at 18 she can’t afford it, but certainly paying OP instalments up to the amount over time means she will actually learn from, and suffer the consequences of, her actions. By having the dad pay, she gets away with it

    Sarah PepperSarah Pepper20 өдрийн өмнө
  • no one: this guy: op,, op op. op

    Sasuke fanSasuke fan20 өдрийн өмнө
  • that one where the woman was late i feel like the guy exagerated cuz i was always late for stuff and late to be picked up from school because me and my om had to catch the bus that woman could just be in a tough situation but getting lunch rather than picking up her kid was a bad thing to do

    ljsnaxljsnax20 өдрийн өмнө
  • The stepsister that impersonated OP & cancelled wedding reservation: Father is covering her butt, and he can expect to do it the rest of his life. Next it'll be credit card fraud, shop lifting, and escalating. It's better to report her to the police and save him the financial burden of bailing her out of jail for many more offenses. Pregnant SIL at funeral: SIL deserved 10/10AH.

    Daniel SchererDaniel Scherer20 өдрийн өмнө
  • I would have straight up told that lady that I hope she loses her baby. Does that make me an asshole? Probably.. but who the fuck goes to a funeral where someone has last their whole family and make it all about them? That's so disgusting and she's lucky she left with her teeth intact.

    Forever-DreamingForever-Dreaming20 өдрийн өмнө
  • I mean if I was God I would've made the SIL lose her baby. Example of why you never let a 12 year old control the world.

    Arjun SunilArjun Sunil20 өдрийн өмнө
  • arguibly supporting a bully is worst

    Tweezy _ezzyTweezy _ezzy20 өдрийн өмнө
  • I just think some people needs a muzzle on their mouth, I don't care that you're pregnant millions of women have babies every year what makes you so damn special? But most of all you need to go we don't care about your pregnancy and you can stay gone and be gone.

    Topaz fireTopaz fire20 өдрийн өмнө
  • the 1st one she wasnt a a whole she did the right thing and fruk the stepsis

    Mihkel TeuliMihkel Teuli21 өдрийн өмнө
  • For a second I though the first story might have been me then I realized that I not only have never been invited to a slumber party but also the only party I had was like when I was 6 or 7 so

    James AmayaJames Amaya21 өдрийн өмнө
    • Correction: the second story

      James AmayaJames Amaya21 өдрийн өмнө
  • Why is it always the step siblings

    Leaf McDonaldLeaf McDonald21 өдрийн өмнө
    • This is nothing like what you search for on incognito tabs

      Leaf McDonaldLeaf McDonald21 өдрийн өмнө
  • Did hangman not teach them anything? One word can end someone’s life

    LunaarLunaar21 өдрийн өмнө
  • I’d give 5/5 buttholes to the bully. I’m a victim of bullying. It was so bad I attempted suicide. Do not bully others. It is so damaging.

    B-Man 1B-Man 121 өдрийн өмнө
  • Bullying is doing something to someone that they don't like again and again even when they tell you to stop

    Roger TurgeonRoger Turgeon21 өдрийн өмнө
  • I couldn’t agree more. She deserve that. She just said that to someone who just lost a love ones and it’s about to be burried and she is flaunting herself of being pregnant and being happy and saying rude things directly at the person who is a Widow and actually lost 3, most important people of her life. She deserve to be put in her place. Her timing was so wrong. She can flaunt that pregnancy if on some other day and time. But not on someone’s burrial.

    Skylet Jason DeanSkylet Jason Dean21 өдрийн өмнө
  • So its not ok to make a less than 2 weeks pregnant woman cry, but it IS ok to make a recently widowed woman cry?? Why arent more people upset about the fact that the SIL literally made the widowed woman ,who also lost 2 babies, cry at their FUNERAL because the SIL couldnt keep her mouth shut about being pregnant for one more damn day. She couldve waited till AFTER the funeral to announce the pregnancy but no, lets use a widowers funeral for her husband and babies to announce a pregnancy, cause THATS a GREAT idea 🙄

    FlameFlame22 өдрийн өмнө
  • 10:20 Yeah -1/5 buttholes to the person and 1.69 buttholes for the pregnant woman and her husband

    flacheflache22 өдрийн өмнө
  • I wouldn't have waited 5 hours. By 12PM I would have said "If you're not here to pick him off within 30minutes I will call the police to report him abandoned". She'd already lied by saying she was on her way at 11:30.

    Eriks RoseEriks Rose22 өдрийн өмнө
  • There could be a chance that the father of the fraudulent step sister story might not see it as him taking responsibility for her fraud depending on his attitude.

    gigaswardbladegigaswardblade22 өдрийн өмнө
  • I don't understand how these people just think this stuff is okay to do. In generally, when you loose someone that's a tough thing to go through whether it's the family pet or a distant relative. But to be an attention seeker when a woman looses TWO CHILDREN AND HER HUSBAND is disgusting. Guys, PLEASE teach your kids to not do this

    Erin JacksonErin Jackson23 өдрийн өмнө
  • I love the girl who snitched on her bullying sister. People always underestimate how traumatic bullying is, thank you for doing the right thing.

    cjcj23 өдрийн өмнө
  • For the pregnant lady, she is lucky she didn't get physically attacked rather than just told off.

    Doglover 57Doglover 5723 өдрийн өмнө
  • There was a documentary of a woman who had 3 kids and 2 of them died in the army. The part that made me tear up was when she said "I come a lot to visit them in the rain to make sure they aren't cold". I felt so bad for the woman who lost 2 of her kids and here husband and for some piece of garbage to try to steal the attention and show off at a time like this I was gobsmacked about how garbage someone can be.

    Eitan RochmanEitan Rochman23 өдрийн өмнө
  • To the op friends with that poor widow, you are not the a hole, that Karen never should have been invited to the funeral, WHAT A BISH, your brother and your sil family *ALL* need to be put in their place along with sil. Don't they have *any* common decency? The poor woman just lost her babies and the love of her life and you have the nerve to make the day about *you*? Wtf

    DragonHeartDragonHeart23 өдрийн өмнө
  • 10:30 she wasn’t wrong telling that lady off. She was disrespectful and was told to keep her pregnancy to herself and didn’t. She got what she deserved.

    Witty VixenWitty Vixen24 өдрийн өмнө
  • 1:53 as somebody who has been bullied since i was 3 years old, having my childhood ripped apart of me because of this, having heavy ptsd,anxiety,depression and panic because of bullying. They’re not the ahole, totally not, what op did was one of the best things they could have done.

    Squeezie BeezieSqueezie Beezie24 өдрийн өмнө
  • For the story that I just heard you get a metal

    Emily JordanEmily Jordan25 өдрийн өмнө
  • at tis point I think that you should add the "no anouncements" cause under every invitation or anything social, even at a funeral you arent safe from entitled people anymore. Im just waiting for someone to pop an engagement ring at someone funeral

    DeepIndigoDeepIndigo25 өдрийн өмнө
  • There's different levels of bullying and fake bullying is not one of them cuz it doesn't exist

    BLIZZARDBLIZZARD26 өдрийн өмнө
  • Like what is "fake bullying"? the only thing i could think is "fake bullying" is like acting in a tv show. But like I think its highly unlikely that there on a tv show.

    starlitesparklestarlitesparkle26 өдрийн өмнө
  • Hey quick question since I’m a little bit newer to Reddit than most. What does OP mean/stand for?

    RatedRemoDemoRatedRemoDemo27 өдрийн өмнө
  • Free violin ambience by a professional? I'd be pleased just to be the neighbor even.

    MrMonochromaticMrMonochromatic28 өдрийн өмнө
  • Nah, screwing your dad for your sisters mistakes is lame. Wanting your 18yo sister to get a criminal record over a wedding venue is lame. Tripling the venue price is lame. If "it just has to be" (...) that venue and money isn't any issue just pay for it yourself and make the sister sign a contract stating she will pay the difference by a reasonable date. You sound as toxic as your sister rn.

    OjasckiOjascki28 өдрийн өмнө
  • She JUST found out she was pregnant like just took the test. She was looking for attention. She doesn't need to "rest her feet" and etc.

    Kierra PratherKierra Prather28 өдрийн өмнө
  • Congratulations on the baby by the way... But that's beyond attention-seeking that woman is an ___hole

    The Phantom CoderThe Phantom Coder28 өдрийн өмнө
  • As far a parents not picking up on time, I was a Girl Scout leader and we made it clear that we were not babysitters. One of the ways we did this was we required a parent for each of the girls had to volunteer to help at at least one meeting, One night close to Christmas, everyone picked up except one parent. After 5 minutes we called and got no answer. After another 15 minutes, we wrote a note stating that the girl was at the home of the leader (me) since no one had showed to pick up. I left my number and my co leader and I got in our cars. Just then a set of highlights pulled in. We waited to see what would happen. A boy got out of the car, went to the door, read the note and looked confused. At that point, I got out of my car, told the mother she was more than a half hour late and she was lucky I was still there. She almost had to come to my house to get her. Her response: Well, I had Christmas shopping to do. I was stunned. My co-leader however said “I’m sure KRab has things to do for the holidays. This is not a baby sitting service and you are required to be here on time.” She was never late again.

    K RabK Rab28 өдрийн өмнө
  • Speaking as the mother of a child who was bullied, the bully will always find someone to bully. Our bully continued until she reached high school when no one put up with her bullshit. After ythat she turned into a complete loser.

    K RabK Rab28 өдрийн өмнө
  • Congrats on bebe

    SoniferousSpinoSoniferousSpino28 өдрийн өмнө
  • Wth with the 18yo stepsister that went and cancelled the venue. Why is the dad babying her when she is an adult? Involve the police so she understands the consequences of her actions. OP doesn’t need to press charges, only file a report. I can’t believe the dad is willing to cover the extra cost when the girl is a freaking adult.

    Emily GriffinEmily Griffin29 өдрийн өмнө
  • The pregnant sil deserves 5/5, the sister witht the violin gets 3/5

    Mr GrapeMr Grape29 өдрийн өмнө
  • How did OP find the info again?

    imissmygoatsimissmygoats29 өдрийн өмнө
  • I'll give the last sister a small degree of credit though, usually when someone acts like an asshole and gets their just desserts, they double down on it and make shit worse for themselves. At least she started apologizing. That doesn't excuse going right back to square one with her behavior though.

    The Grey ParseThe Grey Parse29 өдрийн өмнө
  • In the last story I'd understand if OP was a beginner on the violin, that sounds like cats screeching in the night and that would definitely give someone headaches, but if she is good enough to play in a god damned orchestra then the sister has NOTHING to complain about and was crossing unnecessary boundaries and being a huge B by endangering her own sister's(OP's) income.

    Zagor KupskiZagor Kupski29 өдрийн өмнө
  • "Oh you are premiers? Good, exercising is good for you, here bring a plate of food to the widow"

    Abigail HornibrookAbigail Hornibrook29 өдрийн өмнө
  • The dad in the first story was very wrong, it wasn't "sibling issues" it had nothing to do with the issues the step sister and OP had, it was about the fact that the step sister was bullying someone.

    -Strxwberrix--Strxwberrix-29 өдрийн өмнө
  • 1:06, is where the crack in the lie is. "she would never be my sibling" etc. The people on AITA rarely tell you their motivations directly but it usually comes out after a few good excuses.

    irishmakbethirishmakbethСарын өмнө
  • How dare you make a pregnant woman cry? Um how dare a 2 week pregnant lady make a widow and (there isnt a word for parent who lost a child wtf) cry o0

    SLYKMSLYKMСарын өмнө
  • Nah child is making someone not as financially responsible as her and her spouse pay for something that they admit they could pay for, that makes OP at least partly the butthole. The step sister is original AH of course but OP is also admitting that she is responding in anger. Its a wedding reservation in which you had a good deal bc of covid, its not important enough for someone to sell property to make up for. Also Im really skeptical that anyone does anything lile that just for jealousy, there is some other reason not being addressed whether OP knows it or not. Shoulda taken the other venue instead of punishing step sister through the father. Of course he"s gonna pay for that he doesn't want police getting involved over sibling rivalry.

    SLYKMSLYKMСарын өмнө
  • Not completely familiar with R/AmITheA**hole, but the step sister in my opinion, gets a 4/5 a**hole score

    TheRedPandaTheRedPandaСарын өмнө
  • “Omg I’m so sorry you lost your children... chile anyways I’m pregnant”

    satansatanСарын өмнө
  • So, about the title story... I've seen almost exactly that same situation, except the widow - who was * about to * bury her husband and son - spun around and put her whole weight, plus the force of a hundred tears, behind a punch directly to the pregnant b****'s belly. Then she said "well grab another casket and get out, because your baby's joining mine in heaven, and you're not gonna see either of them from your spot in hell" and kicked that flat belly for good measure.

    CaTastrophy427CaTastrophy427Сарын өмнө
  • #1 nta

    Brayden ChanBrayden ChanСарын өмнө
  • It wasn’t an argument about a violin it was an argument about her work the thing that allows for her to own the very house she was letting her sister stay in.

    Woody . 11 years agoWoody . 11 years agoСарын өмнө
  • Dad slash

    Emmy FordyceEmmy FordyceСарын өмнө
  • I will say though that the woman who blew up at the funeral probably should have found a more toned-down way to deal with the situation rather than escalate it. Like she's definitely not at fault, and I'm not saying she deserves a butt-hole score at all, but getting angry and yelling at a funeral may not have improved things if the goal is to allow the widow to grieve in peace. I guess maybe it could have been okay, depending on how the other people grieving feel about it and the specific circumstances and atmosphere at the funeral, but I feel in most cases quietly pulling this bitch aside and dealing with her out of earshot would have been better.

    Cole FudgeCole FudgeСарын өмнө
  • I've got a question. What the hell is fake bullying. It's either you bully or not there's not fake bullying.

    G4T0R4D3_ M4NG4T0R4D3_ M4NСарын өмнө
  • The wedding: if you’re so financially ahead of your father then why make him sell stuff that’s going to appreciate in value? You could’ve covered yourself or just went to the police. Let HER deal with the problems not your dad. Yta for treating your dad bad

    Martin LopezMartin LopezСарын өмнө

    DeathRobot10KDeathRobot10KСарын өмнө
  • The stepsister in the first story till Mia (probably the quiet kid) pulls out a 50 cal in class

    Andres MezaAndres MezaСарын өмнө
  • Let me just say this: If you are at a funeral for a baby and brag to the mother of the dead baby that you're pregnant, if I hear you do that, you won't be pregnant for long. Yes that's violent, but I can't tolerate people like that. Violence isn't the answer, it's a question. And the answer is yes.

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  • Congrats on the baby r/slash!

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